Authenticity

Own Your Story and Tell it Like You Mean It

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In his book Think Again, Adam Grant talks about exploring concepts from a spherical perspective. That idea of looking at things from so many different angles as is possible in a spherical shape appeals to me.

In this second compilation episode on self-acceptance, I will be highlighting elements of interviews with seven different guests on the topic of self-acceptance. I’ll be weaving a thread between the episodes to help you understand different elements of self-acceptance and its relevance and application in your life. The featured guests are Rachel Tapscott, Daralyse Lyons, Michelle Kuei, Seanna Leath, Aruna Krishnan, Fatima Oliver and Sarah Eames.

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Start Right Where You Are with Self Acceptance

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I conducted 19 interviews for season 3 of Changes Big and Small. Over the next few weeks, I’ll be reading Radical Self Acceptance by Tara Brach and discussing it on the podcast. Feel free to read along and join the conversation. Or if you’ve read the book, feel free to share your thoughts and questions with me at contact@changesbigandsmall.com or you can live a voice recording by clicking on the Start here link.

Self-acceptance means knowing your strengths, weaknesses, successes, failures, and seeing yourself as worthy of love, of dignity, despite your imperfections. It means accepting who you really are, not who you wish you should be or want to be. It has no judgement, only truth. This sets it apart from the related idea of self-esteem because self-esteem only focuses on the “esteemed” or the positive aspects of yourself. Self-acceptance looks at all of yourself and likes yourself regardless of the “flaws”, and it is essential before any transformation.

From the exploration this season, we know that there are many things that affect our self acceptance. These include our relationship with ourselves and with others, the stories we tell about the various facets of our lives and our self-image.

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Healing Yourself Allows You to Build Strong Relationships

In this episode, Nisha Mody shares her own healing journey that she took be able to reconnect with who she is and with what’s important in her life. One of the interesting things that comes up is the relationship between being in community and being connected to people, but also having a strong identity and sense of self and being able to be grounded. We’ll learn what is the mother wound and how we might be able to heal it and address it in our own lives. We also discuss the concept of shame and how we might be able to overcome feelings of shame. We are inherently people of worth being humans, and that’s an important thing for us to remember.

Nisha Mody, MLIS, MA CCC-SLP (she/her) is a Librarian, Feminist Healing Coach, and Writer. She is passionate about trauma-informed care, justice, and creating nurturing relationships. She coaches people one-one, in groups, and provides workshops related to healing and trauma-informed care. Find her on Instagram and TikTok @healinghypegirl, Twitter @nishamody and on her website www.nishaland.com.

01:47 – The meaning of Healing Hype Girl
02:50 – The beginning and working on a healing journey
08:17 – Marriage and identity
16:55 – Examples of self-care to nourish your body
18:37 – Learning what it takes for healing and being part of a community
20;51 – Companions on the healing journey
23:29 – What we deserve and our worth
27:12.- Learning about and growing in self-acceptance
28:40 – The key to being in alignment with yourself
30:10 – What it means to be a human who makes mistakes
30:55 – Invitation/Challenge
33:14 – Finding Nisha on the Web
35:14 – Fast Five

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Get in Touch with Yourself and Define Your Self-Image

I love how Monica Sherese shows up in this interview. Her energy and her passion comes through, and there are so many questions that I had on my list that we didn’t even get to. Be sure to accept Monica’s invitation; it’s something that each of us can do every day. Listen to this episode to get in touch with yourself and define your self-image.

A common theme in many episodes of the podcast, and especially the recent episodes, is for you to take time, get to know yourself, savor your experiences, find out what it is that you really want. Find ways to remove the external and outside influences that are putting up blockers or walls between you and the life that you can choose, the life that you can decide.

If you’re new to listening to Changes Big and Small, go back and listen to the previous episodes because there is an action that you can take, an invitation, in each episode that can help you build habits. These habits can be steps along your path to living the life that you want.

If you know of somebody else who will benefit from listening to this episode, please share it with them. Also, you can follow @changesbigandsmall and @monicasherese on Instagram

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How to Overcome Fear and Find Beauty in the Darkness

Michelle is a certified confidence coach who coaches people to confidently tell their stories, that get them seen, heard, hired, and change lives along the way. She’s the author of a memoir, Perfectly Normal: An Immigrant’s Story of Making it in America, an inspirational journey of overcoming adversity after an automobile accident that changed her life’s trajectory.

Michelle has such fantastic energy and her story is so inspiring. In this episode, she shares how she made a switch at some point in her mindset and the impact this had on her life. She took a series of brave actions that helped her discover how she could show up and choose the life that she wants.

Michelle shares suggestions on how we can make changes in our lives and the four elements necessary for success. Michelle shows us a route to developing self acceptance, and to dance with and befriend our fears.

This podcast interview was recorded on April 2, 2021.

Timeline of the Chat

03:32 – Becoming disabled at age 11
07:21 – Struggling with mental health 
10:53 – Changing mindset and travelling the Inca Trail
20:43 – Change your mindset to change your life
21:56 – How to trust your path and overcome fear
25:35 – Using the The Inner Critic Project to Manage Your Fears
29:16 – Defining acceptance
31:19 – Facing negative self talk – Judgment journal
34:18: Feng Shui and The Five Archetypes
36:30- Awareness as the first step to change
38:53 – The Four Elements to Live the Life that You Want
42:28 – Invitation/Challenge
43:48 – Perfectly Normal
44:23 – Fast Five

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Using Resistance and Resilience to Build Self Acceptance

The guest this episode is Dr. Seanna Leath. Dr. Leath and I have such a wide ranging conversation. We talk about black families, about mental health within the black community, about mothering and how Dr. Leath is currently thinking about that. A lot of her work is inspired by her own journey and because she’s done so much research, she has a lot of resources to share with us, of authors and papers that we can check to learn more about the topic.

The idea of the strong black woman is a common trope within black American culture, and so we spend some time looking at where that comes from and how it can be harmful to women and girls in the community.

Listen to this episode for some ideas of how you can investigate how you are feeling, what areas you are struggling with in terms of self acceptance and what practices and opportunities can you take in order for you to develop your own self acceptance?

Correction: Sebene Selassie’s Book is called You Belong not You Are Enough as I said in the interview.

This podcast interview was recorded on April 1, 2021.

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Using Video to Connect with Your Audience

When was the last time that you showed up on video? Are you comfortable with being on video or is it a medium that you tend to avoid? Why might all of us want to create a video? These are some of the questions that I explore with Rachel Tapscott in this episode.

Rachel helps business owners share their story through video. She began her career in media as original news camera operator, then moved into corporate video production, which led her to start her own video production company That Camera Girl. She noticed the same patterns and limiting beliefs present with dozens of different clients around the idea of putting themselves out on video, and she experienced the same fear and internal battle at the idea of appearing on video herself. Rachel’s purpose and the focus of her business has shifted from simply creating videos to helping people with their confidence on camera and their belief in themselves.

This podcast interview was recorded on March 28, 2021.

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How to Accept Your Body’s Imperfections

Have you ever found yourself hiding something about yourself? Perhaps you take photos showing only one side of your body, or you only share headshots to social media. If so, you will related to today’s guest and her invitation will help you accept and reveal yourself.

Beverley Mapagany currently works as an Account Payable Administrator but she strongly believe that she has come to this world to be a beacon of light to those who are struggling with accepting their bodies and who are not free because they are afraid they are not how the world tells them they should be. She has recently embarked on a journey of being a Body Image Activist.

We’ll continue exploring this topic over the next few weeks. Today, in addition to Beverly’s invitation to look in the mirror and speak to yourself with kindness, with love. I would also invite you to do some journaling, to do some reflecting, to do some thinking about what is the part of you that you’re hiding away, hiding away from yourself and hiding away from others. Reflect on this and as the weeks go on, I will be sharing some additional invitations, some additional challenges and resources with you so that you can make progress on this journey of self acceptance as well.

This podcast interview was recorded on March 18, 2021.

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How to Build Self Acceptance

To start off season 3, which focuses on self-acceptance, I interviewed Claudia Ira Gan last week. Claudia and I discussed how some people have a skewed sense of self-acceptance, thinking that self-acceptance means stagnation and staying the same. That is not what self acceptance is.

Self-acceptance means knowing your strengths, weaknesses, successes, failures, and seeing yourself as worthy of love, of dignity, despite your imperfections. It means accepting who you really are, not who you wish you should be or want to be. It has no judgement, only truth. This sets it apart from the related idea of self-esteem because self-esteem only focuses on the “esteemed” or the positive aspects of yourself. Self-acceptance looks at all of yourself and likes yourself regardless of the “flaws”, and it is essential before any transformation.

Listen to this episode to learn what is self acceptance and for some ideas of ways that you can increase your practice of self-acceptance.

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Listen to your Gut with Deirdre Nelson

Correction: Queen Sono is the first original African series. It is South African, not Nigerian as I mentioned in the podcast.

I interviewed Deirdre Nelson on March 13, 2020. When we spoke, Prague was in the first stages of lockdown, and restaurants were still open until 8pm. There were only a handful of cases of people with coronavirus in Winnipeg, where Deirdre lives. In Prague, there were 141 cases. Since that time, both Canada and Czech Republic have tightened lockdowns and most people in both Prague and Winnipeg are still working from home. Prague, however, has loosened the lockdown and is continuing to do so. In a follow-up episode, Deirdre will share how coronavirus has affected her life.

This episode is not about the coronavirus pandemic, but as I listened back to our banter, much of which didn’t make it into the final edit of the podcast, I was reminded of how much has changed in a relatively short time. If you or someone you love has been touched by the coronavirus pandemic, I hope that you are doing better. If you’re grieving about loss at this time, I’m sorry for your loss. I discuss grief and supporting yourself or others who are grieving in episode ? of the podcast.

For the past few weeks, I’ve interviewed various people about life in the time of coronavirus while also discussing other significant changes in their life. As countries and individuals look at how to transition out of lockdown, we’re beginning to look forward to change and improvement so that we are not confined to our home.

Listen to this wide ranging conversation between me and Deirdre about travel, teaching English in Korea, making friends, changing tastes. We even get into a discussion about The Cosby Show and other shows from the 80s. Through it all, Deirdre shares an important message, to follow your heart. Listen to this episode as inspiration to think through what is holding you back, and how you can find your way to living your life.

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I am sending you best wishes for good health and happiness. Have a great week.

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Challenging Prejudice and Building a Life of Purpose

In this episode of Changes Big and Small, I chat with Avril Matsui. Born in the UK, Avril has lived in Japan for the past 26 years. We speak about race and prejudice, and what it’s like living as a black woman in Japan. She also shares her purpose and how she discovered it.

Listen to this episode to learn some great strategies for finding your purpose and making positive changes in your life. Avril inspires us with questions that we can ask to help us make sure that we are living full lives, in our integrity.

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Find the Courage to Be Yourself

This week, Changes BIG and small welcomes Annie Koshy. Annie is an award-winning media professional, a multi-talented media and events personality, a trained elite speaker and emcee. As a model with one of the city’s premier modelling agencies, Annie has garnered mainstream attention through her commercial work. Most recently, she was featured in a lead role in a short film. A documentary on her life is currently being filmed and she is the proud author of the book, How to Be your Badass Self, A Guide to Using Your Inner Energy for Brand Success. Annie is also part of the mainstream radio station, Sauga 960am, as part of their weekend fixture, The Source, where she engages in lighthearted banter and conversation.

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* Correction: A Bloody Mess is a short film, not a documentary.

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