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Follow Your Chain of Pain to Build Stronger Relationships with Jeff and Ellen White

We all carry baggage or a chain of pain. Coaches Jeff and Ellen White share strategies to follow your chain of pain to build stronger relationships. You can break the chain of pain to choose how you show up in your relationships, and to build more fulfilling and rewarding relationships.

[01:41] Which relationship creates the initial template for our other relationships
[03:38] What is Attachment Theory
[07:44] One behavior that’s crucial in all relationships
[10:56] Relationship Skills are a Journey
[12:44] Listening to the Cues and Clues and Relationships
[16:31] Figuring out your blueprint for conversations
[19:00] What is the chain of pain – First steps
[22:30] What’s it like to be in relationship with you?
[30:35] Getting feedback from those that you are in relationship with
[34:43] How do we show up differently in different relationships?
[38:44] Two invitations to build fulfilling relationships

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Ask Why Not Instead of Why

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Changes Big and small will be back for Season 4 next week! Get ready to explore intimate relationships, friendships, work relationships and family relationships. In the meantime, I’m sharing an interview where I was a guest on another show.

I recently appeared on the Be Your Own Kind podcast with host Renita who was a guest on Changes Big and Small in episode 34. I’ve shared an excerpt on Changest Big and Small and you can listen to the whole episode here or embedded below.

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Own Your Story and Tell it Like You Mean It

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In his book Think Again, Adam Grant talks about exploring concepts from a spherical perspective. That idea of looking at things from so many different angles as is possible in a spherical shape appeals to me.

In this second compilation episode on self-acceptance, I will be highlighting elements of interviews with seven different guests on the topic of self-acceptance. I’ll be weaving a thread between the episodes to help you understand different elements of self-acceptance and its relevance and application in your life. The featured guests are Rachel Tapscott, Daralyse Lyons, Michelle Kuei, Seanna Leath, Aruna Krishnan, Fatima Oliver and Sarah Eames.

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You can reach me at contact@changesbigandsmall.com if you have any questions or feedback. If you’d like to appear on the podcast, reach out to me for more information. I’m currently interviewing for the next season, which is focused on relationships.

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Start Right Where You Are with Self Acceptance

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I conducted 19 interviews for season 3 of Changes Big and Small. Over the next few weeks, I’ll be reading Radical Self Acceptance by Tara Brach and discussing it on the podcast. Feel free to read along and join the conversation. Or if you’ve read the book, feel free to share your thoughts and questions with me at contact@changesbigandsmall.com or you can live a voice recording by clicking on the Start here link.

Self-acceptance means knowing your strengths, weaknesses, successes, failures, and seeing yourself as worthy of love, of dignity, despite your imperfections. It means accepting who you really are, not who you wish you should be or want to be. It has no judgement, only truth. This sets it apart from the related idea of self-esteem because self-esteem only focuses on the “esteemed” or the positive aspects of yourself. Self-acceptance looks at all of yourself and likes yourself regardless of the “flaws”, and it is essential before any transformation.

From the exploration this season, we know that there are many things that affect our self acceptance. These include our relationship with ourselves and with others, the stories we tell about the various facets of our lives and our self-image.

Find the shownotes at https://changesbigandsmall.com

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You can reach me at contact@changesbigandsmall.com if you have any questions or feedback. If you’d like to appear on the podcast, reach out to me for more information. I’m currently interviewing for the next season, which is focused on relationships.

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Healing Yourself Allows You to Build Strong Relationships

In this episode, Nisha Mody shares her own healing journey that she took be able to reconnect with who she is and with what’s important in her life. One of the interesting things that comes up is the relationship between being in community and being connected to people, but also having a strong identity and sense of self and being able to be grounded. We’ll learn what is the mother wound and how we might be able to heal it and address it in our own lives. We also discuss the concept of shame and how we might be able to overcome feelings of shame. We are inherently people of worth being humans, and that’s an important thing for us to remember.

Nisha Mody, MLIS, MA CCC-SLP (she/her) is a Librarian, Feminist Healing Coach, and Writer. She is passionate about trauma-informed care, justice, and creating nurturing relationships. She coaches people one-one, in groups, and provides workshops related to healing and trauma-informed care. Find her on Instagram and TikTok @healinghypegirl, Twitter @nishamody and on her website www.nishaland.com.

01:47 – The meaning of Healing Hype Girl
02:50 – The beginning and working on a healing journey
08:17 – Marriage and identity
16:55 – Examples of self-care to nourish your body
18:37 – Learning what it takes for healing and being part of a community
20;51 – Companions on the healing journey
23:29 – What we deserve and our worth
27:12.- Learning about and growing in self-acceptance
28:40 – The key to being in alignment with yourself
30:10 – What it means to be a human who makes mistakes
30:55 – Invitation/Challenge
33:14 – Finding Nisha on the Web
35:14 – Fast Five

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Create a Bridge to Develop Self Acceptance and Empower Change

In this episode, I’ve extracted the gems from a conversation with Monica Sherese to share with you. You can consider this a companion interview to episode 79 although the order in which you listen to the two episodes do not matter.

Listen to find out how to hold space for other people to support them in living the life that they want. Also, we invite you to interrogate your own thoughts about yourself and your body so that you can make change in a way that is respectful and caring of yourself and your body. A key ideas is loving your body, a concept that is tied to the challenge from episode 79 of the podcast.

The goal is to have 10 reviews this month. Could you please help with that? If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review.

You can find the shownotes at https://changesbigandsmall.com/

You can reach me at contact@changesbigandsmall.com if you have any questions or feedback. If you’d like to appear on the podcast to discuss the topic of relationships or have a suggested guest, reach out to me for more information!

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Get in Touch with Yourself and Define Your Self-Image

I love how Monica Sherese shows up in this interview. Her energy and her passion comes through, and there are so many questions that I had on my list that we didn’t even get to. Be sure to accept Monica’s invitation; it’s something that each of us can do every day. Listen to this episode to get in touch with yourself and define your self-image.

A common theme in many episodes of the podcast, and especially the recent episodes, is for you to take time, get to know yourself, savor your experiences, find out what it is that you really want. Find ways to remove the external and outside influences that are putting up blockers or walls between you and the life that you can choose, the life that you can decide.

If you’re new to listening to Changes Big and Small, go back and listen to the previous episodes because there is an action that you can take, an invitation, in each episode that can help you build habits. These habits can be steps along your path to living the life that you want.

If you know of somebody else who will benefit from listening to this episode, please share it with them. Also, you can follow @changesbigandsmall and @monicasherese on Instagram

You can find the shownotes at https://changesbigandsmall.com/

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How to Uncover Limiting Beliefs and Overcome Them

In this episode, Kim Ades invites you to to commit to getting what you want by emailing her your answers to two questions that she asks. If you do, she will reply to you.

Kim Ades (pronounced add-iss) is the President and Founder of Frame of Mind CoachingTM and JournalEngineTM Software. Recognized as an expert in the area of thought mastery and mental toughness, Kim uses her unique philosophy and quirky coaching style to help leaders identify their personal blind spots and shift their thinking in order to yield extraordinary results. Author, speaker, entrepreneur, coach, and mom of five, Kim’s claim to fame is teaching her powerful Frame of Mind CoachingTM process to leaders, entrepreneurs and influencers worldwide.

Contact and follow Kim at frameofmindcoaching.com.

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How to Make Time to Take Action Every Day to Reach Your Goals

In this episode, the guest is Diane Randall. Diane is an author, consultant, workshop presenter, college instructor, professional speaker, and former podcast show host whose articles have appeared in publications such as the Vegan Street, Plant Pure Nation, New York Times, Balance, Choice, Consulting Magazines, the Active Times, and American Holistic Health Association (AHHA). She has been a guest on numerous podcasts and appeared on television, including a guest appearance on the Oprah Winfrey Show to discuss successful relationships.

Diane shares what she did in order to transform her life and provides resources that we can use to find out what we need in our own lives, what will help us live the lives that we want. The transformation journey is individual to each person. We can begin to define and envision what is the life that we want.

This podcast interview was recorded on April 17, 2021.

Timeline of the Chat

02:10 – Starting a transformation journey
04:04 – Health Improvement
05:12 – Making changes that stick
07:00 – Overcoming the challenges to change
09:23 – Milestones in the health journey
14:28 – Acknowledge what is in the past that’s affecting your present
20:56 – Investigating our self-talk
23:12 – Using the tools you have to motivate and track progress
25:28 – Honoring yourself
27:53 – Living the life that you envision
29:03 – Building the life that you want
31:00 – Habit to build the life you want
32:28 – Invitation/Challenge
34:35 – Fast Five

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How to Create a Personalized Money Mindset

The guest this episode is Mark Butler. Mark is the founder of the accounting startup Let’s Do The Books as well as the bookkeeper, CFO and confidante to top online entrepreneurs like Brooke Castillo. Before working in finance, mark co-founded three online businesses that brought in close to 2 million in total revenue. Today, Mark combines his business savvy with his certification in life coaching to help business owners take control of their finances and work through the shame and anxiety that almost always comes up when dealing with money.

One of the reasons I wanted to speak with Mark is because he has an expansive mindset around money, philosophy about money. And so, I hope that you will consider some of the activities to build your own habits, to find out what you believe about money, what your values are, and the relationship between your consumption and your earnings. As Mark says, it all starts with self-awareness.

This podcast interview was recorded on April 12, 2021.

Timeline of the Chat

01:48 – Money School
02:39 – The cause of anxiety and fear around money
06:19 – Making financial decisions based on self-awareness 
09:24 – Challenges to building a money mindset
11:13 – Book recommendation on money
13:29 – Use priorities to make decisions
15:41 – Financial education
18:07 – Finding our money patterns
22:41 – Two key habit to change your money mindset 
25:37 – Mark’s Learning/Observation Journey
27:30 – The impact of feeling neutral about money
29:42 – Personalizing your money philosophy
32:35 – Choosing what we want
38:44 – Everyone is lucky
41:27 – Invitation/Challenge
43:18 – Fast Five

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How to Get to Know and Accept Yourself

Listen to this episode with Fatima Oliver to find out how to have a soul journey to self-acceptance. Fatima and I discuss some of the main situations and experiences that damage our self acceptance, and she shares the steps that she followed in order to heal some of the trauma and hurt in her life to get to a place of self acceptance.

Fatima is a wife, mother, and author. She has a passion for helping others using what she calls a baby step approach. Fatima has been able to embrace the work necessary to heal from childhood trauma, heartbreak and abuse. Much of her life’s journey is shared in her new book The Prescription is in the Dirt, now available on Amazon.com.

Timeline of the Chat

01:50 – The Prescription is in the Dirt
04:44 – Recognizing the need for change
06:67 – Getting Therapeutic Help
10:47 – Uncovering hidden triggers and habits
17:09 – Finding the Why for your Triggers
21:24 – On Self-Acceptance
25:33 – Learning from failure
27:49 – The greatest threat to self acceptance
31:37 – Milestones on the self-acceptance journey
35:49 – Celebrating Successes on your Journey
37:55 – Change starts with you
38:46 – Struggles with self acceptance
40:57 – Challenge/Invitation
42:54 – Fast Five

This podcast interview was recorded on April 12, 2021.

You can find the shownotes at https://changesbigandsmall.com/

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How to Use Soul Searching for Personal Transformation

Aruna Krishnan shares the five R’s of personal transformation and invites us to complete the first step today. She also reveals three ways that we can fight imposter syndrome, and questions that we can use to help us figure out our leadership capacity, recognizing that leadership doesn’t only happen when we’re in charge of a team, but it can happen in many different areas where we’re able to contribute towards making an impact.

Aruna is a management consultant, best selling author and podcast host. Her Busy Mind book series and podcast Lead That Thing cover leadership topics and competencies. Her company Optum LLC works with business owners to define business and product strategies that increase their revenues and growth. Learn more at https://www.optim-strategies.com/

Timeline of the Chat

02:25 – Aruna’s Busy Mind Series
05:10 – How to manage and train your mind
13:41 – The 4 Ps Framework for problem solving
17:32 – Writing to simplify processes and help others
21:21 – Leadership
23:19 – On self-acceptance and imposter syndrome
26:18 – Steps in Aruna’s self-acceptance journey
28:43 – Parenting the next generation
30:59 – Books and reading
32:40 – On failure and change
33:55 – Invitation/Challenge – The 5 R’s to Personal Transformation
36:42 – Fast Five

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