Identity

Start Right Where You Are with Self Acceptance

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I conducted 19 interviews for season 3 of Changes Big and Small. Over the next few weeks, I’ll be reading Radical Self Acceptance by Tara Brach and discussing it on the podcast. Feel free to read along and join the conversation. Or if you’ve read the book, feel free to share your thoughts and questions with me at contact@changesbigandsmall.com or you can live a voice recording by clicking on the Start here link.

Self-acceptance means knowing your strengths, weaknesses, successes, failures, and seeing yourself as worthy of love, of dignity, despite your imperfections. It means accepting who you really are, not who you wish you should be or want to be. It has no judgement, only truth. This sets it apart from the related idea of self-esteem because self-esteem only focuses on the “esteemed” or the positive aspects of yourself. Self-acceptance looks at all of yourself and likes yourself regardless of the “flaws”, and it is essential before any transformation.

From the exploration this season, we know that there are many things that affect our self acceptance. These include our relationship with ourselves and with others, the stories we tell about the various facets of our lives and our self-image.

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Healing Yourself Allows You to Build Strong Relationships

In this episode, Nisha Mody shares her own healing journey that she took be able to reconnect with who she is and with what’s important in her life. One of the interesting things that comes up is the relationship between being in community and being connected to people, but also having a strong identity and sense of self and being able to be grounded. We’ll learn what is the mother wound and how we might be able to heal it and address it in our own lives. We also discuss the concept of shame and how we might be able to overcome feelings of shame. We are inherently people of worth being humans, and that’s an important thing for us to remember.

Nisha Mody, MLIS, MA CCC-SLP (she/her) is a Librarian, Feminist Healing Coach, and Writer. She is passionate about trauma-informed care, justice, and creating nurturing relationships. She coaches people one-one, in groups, and provides workshops related to healing and trauma-informed care. Find her on Instagram and TikTok @healinghypegirl, Twitter @nishamody and on her website www.nishaland.com.

01:47 – The meaning of Healing Hype Girl
02:50 – The beginning and working on a healing journey
08:17 – Marriage and identity
16:55 – Examples of self-care to nourish your body
18:37 – Learning what it takes for healing and being part of a community
20;51 – Companions on the healing journey
23:29 – What we deserve and our worth
27:12.- Learning about and growing in self-acceptance
28:40 – The key to being in alignment with yourself
30:10 – What it means to be a human who makes mistakes
30:55 – Invitation/Challenge
33:14 – Finding Nisha on the Web
35:14 – Fast Five

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Create a Bridge to Develop Self Acceptance and Empower Change

In this episode, I’ve extracted the gems from a conversation with Monica Sherese to share with you. You can consider this a companion interview to episode 79 although the order in which you listen to the two episodes do not matter.

Listen to find out how to hold space for other people to support them in living the life that they want. Also, we invite you to interrogate your own thoughts about yourself and your body so that you can make change in a way that is respectful and caring of yourself and your body. A key ideas is loving your body, a concept that is tied to the challenge from episode 79 of the podcast.

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Use Storytelling to Explore and Claim Your Identity

Listen to this episode to explore how storytelling can help reframe your story and support healing. We get to tell our stories the way we want it. Daralyse invites us to consider how we will tell our story, what framing will we use, what structure will we use, and who will we tell it to. Being authentic and true to yourself means telling your story, but you also get to choose who to tell your story to. We share our stories to the people whom we trust.

Timeline of the Chat

01:59 – Being an Author
12:12 – Processing Identity through Storytelling
18:24 – Defining self-acceptance
23:16 – Transformation through Self-Acceptance
27:18 – Love as an Antidote to Fear
28:51 – Maintaining Self-Acceptance
34:02 – Invitation/Challenge: Telling our stories
42:27 – Fast Final Five

Contact and follow Daralyse by going to daralyselyons.com or by going to demystifyingdiversitypodcast.com.

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Get in Touch with Yourself and Define Your Self-Image

I love how Monica Sherese shows up in this interview. Her energy and her passion comes through, and there are so many questions that I had on my list that we didn’t even get to. Be sure to accept Monica’s invitation; it’s something that each of us can do every day. Listen to this episode to get in touch with yourself and define your self-image.

A common theme in many episodes of the podcast, and especially the recent episodes, is for you to take time, get to know yourself, savor your experiences, find out what it is that you really want. Find ways to remove the external and outside influences that are putting up blockers or walls between you and the life that you can choose, the life that you can decide.

If you’re new to listening to Changes Big and Small, go back and listen to the previous episodes because there is an action that you can take, an invitation, in each episode that can help you build habits. These habits can be steps along your path to living the life that you want.

If you know of somebody else who will benefit from listening to this episode, please share it with them. Also, you can follow @changesbigandsmall and @monicasherese on Instagram

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How to Uncover Limiting Beliefs and Overcome Them

In this episode, Kim Ades invites you to to commit to getting what you want by emailing her your answers to two questions that she asks. If you do, she will reply to you.

Kim Ades (pronounced add-iss) is the President and Founder of Frame of Mind CoachingTM and JournalEngineTM Software. Recognized as an expert in the area of thought mastery and mental toughness, Kim uses her unique philosophy and quirky coaching style to help leaders identify their personal blind spots and shift their thinking in order to yield extraordinary results. Author, speaker, entrepreneur, coach, and mom of five, Kim’s claim to fame is teaching her powerful Frame of Mind CoachingTM process to leaders, entrepreneurs and influencers worldwide.

Contact and follow Kim at frameofmindcoaching.com.

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Choosing The Right Therapy for Your Healing

In this episode, the guest is psychotherapist, Sarah Eames. Sarah has experience with a range of mental health problems, and she’s been working for many years with CBT and compassion focused therapy. She founded Speakeasy Virtual Therapy in September, 2020, as a way for people to continue accessing therapy during the pandemic. Her Instagram handle is speakeasyvirtualtherapy_.

Sarah shares several strategies that you can use for choosing a therapist, for choosing a therapy type, and for helping yourself when you’re dealing with situations that may be difficult or stressful. It’s never too late to start a new practice, to get some help, to do something great for yourself.

You can visit Sarah’s site at https://speakeasyvirtualtherapy.com and follow her on Instagram.e

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How to Use Soul Searching for Personal Transformation

Aruna Krishnan shares the five R’s of personal transformation and invites us to complete the first step today. She also reveals three ways that we can fight imposter syndrome, and questions that we can use to help us figure out our leadership capacity, recognizing that leadership doesn’t only happen when we’re in charge of a team, but it can happen in many different areas where we’re able to contribute towards making an impact.

Aruna is a management consultant, best selling author and podcast host. Her Busy Mind book series and podcast Lead That Thing cover leadership topics and competencies. Her company Optum LLC works with business owners to define business and product strategies that increase their revenues and growth. Learn more at https://www.optim-strategies.com/

Timeline of the Chat

02:25 – Aruna’s Busy Mind Series
05:10 – How to manage and train your mind
13:41 – The 4 Ps Framework for problem solving
17:32 – Writing to simplify processes and help others
21:21 – Leadership
23:19 – On self-acceptance and imposter syndrome
26:18 – Steps in Aruna’s self-acceptance journey
28:43 – Parenting the next generation
30:59 – Books and reading
32:40 – On failure and change
33:55 – Invitation/Challenge – The 5 R’s to Personal Transformation
36:42 – Fast Five

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Using Resistance and Resilience to Build Self Acceptance

The guest this episode is Dr. Seanna Leath. Dr. Leath and I have such a wide ranging conversation. We talk about black families, about mental health within the black community, about mothering and how Dr. Leath is currently thinking about that. A lot of her work is inspired by her own journey and because she’s done so much research, she has a lot of resources to share with us, of authors and papers that we can check to learn more about the topic.

The idea of the strong black woman is a common trope within black American culture, and so we spend some time looking at where that comes from and how it can be harmful to women and girls in the community.

Listen to this episode for some ideas of how you can investigate how you are feeling, what areas you are struggling with in terms of self acceptance and what practices and opportunities can you take in order for you to develop your own self acceptance?

Correction: Sebene Selassie’s Book is called You Belong not You Are Enough as I said in the interview.

This podcast interview was recorded on April 1, 2021.

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Working Together Across Timezones to Build a Clothing Brand

Sisters Chantalia and Haigann Fevrier-President started their own clothing brand during the pandemic. Chantalia is 17 and in high school in Canada; Haigann is in university in Italy. I’m in Prague, Czech Republic so this podcast episode is truly international.

Listen to find out what inspired the brand, Silence is Compliance, how they were able to get it started, what they learned along the journey and how you can start your own venture even if you’re still in high school! Silence is compliance recently released 5 new products, growing their brand.

I recorded this interview with Haigann and Chantalia as an Instagram Live on March 3, 2021. Since then, they have released 5 new products in their brand.

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How to Find Belonging and Practice Self-Acceptance

Today, I’m speaking with Claudia Ira Gan. Claudia’s birthday is actually in two days so happy birthday, Claudia . Please send her birthday greetings on Instagram. You’ll find the link in the show notes at https://changesbigandsmall.com.

Listen to this episode to find out a perspective on self acceptance, why self acceptance is so important, and what steps you might be able to take to incorporate more of it into your life?

This podcast interview was recorded on Feb. 14, 2021.

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Educate Yourself and Decide Who You Want to Be

Samira is a 26 year old mixed race girl born in Czechia. She now lives in London. She is in Prague right now, and she actually came over for us to have the chat. You can see more about her on Instagram at afrikakidsczsk and also at darealsamira.

For more information you can visit https://changesbigandsmall.com/38.

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I am sending you best wishes for good health and happiness. Have a great week.

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