mental health

Mental Health Can Make Relationships a Struggle

I recently heard from a friend from the University of Ottawa. We spent hours together every day during our undergrad but drifted apart as I moved to India and she moved to Saskatchewan. We’ve reconnected multiple times and then lost touch again. I don’t make friends easily, and I tend to make friends for life….

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Choosing The Right Therapy for Your Healing

In this episode, the guest is psychotherapist, Sarah Eames. Sarah has experience with a range of mental health problems, and she’s been working for many years with CBT and compassion focused therapy. She founded Speakeasy Virtual Therapy in September, 2020, as a way for people to continue accessing therapy during the pandemic. Her Instagram handle is speakeasyvirtualtherapy_.

Sarah shares several strategies that you can use for choosing a therapist, for choosing a therapy type, and for helping yourself when you’re dealing with situations that may be difficult or stressful. It’s never too late to start a new practice, to get some help, to do something great for yourself.

You can visit Sarah’s site at https://speakeasyvirtualtherapy.com and follow her on Instagram.e

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How to Get to Know and Accept Yourself

Listen to this episode with Fatima Oliver to find out how to have a soul journey to self-acceptance. Fatima and I discuss some of the main situations and experiences that damage our self acceptance, and she shares the steps that she followed in order to heal some of the trauma and hurt in her life to get to a place of self acceptance.

Fatima is a wife, mother, and author. She has a passion for helping others using what she calls a baby step approach. Fatima has been able to embrace the work necessary to heal from childhood trauma, heartbreak and abuse. Much of her life’s journey is shared in her new book The Prescription is in the Dirt, now available on Amazon.com.

Timeline of the Chat

01:50 – The Prescription is in the Dirt
04:44 – Recognizing the need for change
06:67 – Getting Therapeutic Help
10:47 – Uncovering hidden triggers and habits
17:09 – Finding the Why for your Triggers
21:24 – On Self-Acceptance
25:33 – Learning from failure
27:49 – The greatest threat to self acceptance
31:37 – Milestones on the self-acceptance journey
35:49 – Celebrating Successes on your Journey
37:55 – Change starts with you
38:46 – Struggles with self acceptance
40:57 – Challenge/Invitation
42:54 – Fast Five

This podcast interview was recorded on April 12, 2021.

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Bonus Episode: Join the Speak Easy Virtual Therapy May 2021 Challenge

This is a bonus episode. The regularly scheduled episode on self acceptance will come out tomorrow. Last week, I had an interview with Sarah Eames, who’s a psychotherapist based in Dublin, Ireland. Her interview won’t come out until the end of May so I’m releasing a snippet from that episode to share her May challenge with you. You can join the challenge from her feed on Instagram, at speakeasyvirtualtherapy_.

All you have to do is message Sarah or Erica through Instagram or email Sarah from her website https://speakeasyvirtualtherapy.com. Then you will receive a packet from them worksheets to make a plan and to log your progress. At the end of each week, you will check in with them on your progress in meeting your goal.

 You can go reach out to Sarah on Instagram or through her website, speakeasyvirtualtherapy.com. Her email address is also on that page if you prefer email. I hope to see you in the May challenge.
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How to Overcome Fear and Find Beauty in the Darkness

Michelle is a certified confidence coach who coaches people to confidently tell their stories, that get them seen, heard, hired, and change lives along the way. She’s the author of a memoir, Perfectly Normal: An Immigrant’s Story of Making it in America, an inspirational journey of overcoming adversity after an automobile accident that changed her life’s trajectory.

Michelle has such fantastic energy and her story is so inspiring. In this episode, she shares how she made a switch at some point in her mindset and the impact this had on her life. She took a series of brave actions that helped her discover how she could show up and choose the life that she wants.

Michelle shares suggestions on how we can make changes in our lives and the four elements necessary for success. Michelle shows us a route to developing self acceptance, and to dance with and befriend our fears.

This podcast interview was recorded on April 2, 2021.

Timeline of the Chat

03:32 – Becoming disabled at age 11
07:21 – Struggling with mental health 
10:53 – Changing mindset and travelling the Inca Trail
20:43 – Change your mindset to change your life
21:56 – How to trust your path and overcome fear
25:35 – Using the The Inner Critic Project to Manage Your Fears
29:16 – Defining acceptance
31:19 – Facing negative self talk – Judgment journal
34:18: Feng Shui and The Five Archetypes
36:30- Awareness as the first step to change
38:53 – The Four Elements to Live the Life that You Want
42:28 – Invitation/Challenge
43:48 – Perfectly Normal
44:23 – Fast Five

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Using Resistance and Resilience to Build Self Acceptance

The guest this episode is Dr. Seanna Leath. Dr. Leath and I have such a wide ranging conversation. We talk about black families, about mental health within the black community, about mothering and how Dr. Leath is currently thinking about that. A lot of her work is inspired by her own journey and because she’s done so much research, she has a lot of resources to share with us, of authors and papers that we can check to learn more about the topic.

The idea of the strong black woman is a common trope within black American culture, and so we spend some time looking at where that comes from and how it can be harmful to women and girls in the community.

Listen to this episode for some ideas of how you can investigate how you are feeling, what areas you are struggling with in terms of self acceptance and what practices and opportunities can you take in order for you to develop your own self acceptance?

Correction: Sebene Selassie’s Book is called You Belong not You Are Enough as I said in the interview.

This podcast interview was recorded on April 1, 2021.

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Coming Home to Your Self

What if we define home as the place that you can rest, find solace, let go, be yourself and find unconditional acceptance? Where is that place for you? A few weeks ago, I was listening to a Tim Ferris podcast episode with Richard Schwartz. I was intrigued at the idea of the true Self inside…

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Difficult Conversations can help Launch your Progress

Devin Williams is the host of the Sour Topics podcast for men’s mental health and self-help. He is also the blogger of Devinism.com a guide for millennial entrepreneurs. Devin is the father of 4 and lives in Maryland. I interviewed Devin on May 21, so we chat about coronavirus and its effect on his family. Because Devin is considered an essential worker, his routine hasn’t changed that much during coronavirus. Given the topic of Devin’s podcast, we also discuss difficult conversations.

Topics in this episode include work, marriage and separation, raising children, mental health, suicide and depression. Devin shares how he is taking action towards your dreams and he challenges men to a vulnerable act that can improve their marriage. However, this challenge can apply to anyone and any type of relationship.

Go to your partner and ask them what you can do better. And ask them what you are not doing. Give them the opportunity to say the thing that they hold back because they don’t want to cause trouble. Those are the things that cause problems. They carry into other situations and heighten the anger and discontent in your relationship.

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