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How to Get to Know and Accept Yourself

Listen to this episode with Fatima Oliver to find out how to have a soul journey to self-acceptance. Fatima and I discuss some of the main situations and experiences that damage our self acceptance, and she shares the steps that she followed in order to heal some of the trauma and hurt in her life to get to a place of self acceptance.

Fatima is a wife, mother, and author. She has a passion for helping others using what she calls a baby step approach. Fatima has been able to embrace the work necessary to heal from childhood trauma, heartbreak and abuse. Much of her life’s journey is shared in her new book The Prescription is in the Dirt, now available on Amazon.com.

Timeline of the Chat

01:50 – The Prescription is in the Dirt
04:44 – Recognizing the need for change
06:67 – Getting Therapeutic Help
10:47 – Uncovering hidden triggers and habits
17:09 – Finding the Why for your Triggers
21:24 – On Self-Acceptance
25:33 – Learning from failure
27:49 – The greatest threat to self acceptance
31:37 – Milestones on the self-acceptance journey
35:49 – Celebrating Successes on your Journey
37:55 – Change starts with you
38:46 – Struggles with self acceptance
40:57 – Challenge/Invitation
42:54 – Fast Five

This podcast interview was recorded on April 12, 2021.

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Bonus Episode: Join the Speak Easy Virtual Therapy May 2021 Challenge

This is a bonus episode. The regularly scheduled episode on self acceptance will come out tomorrow. Last week, I had an interview with Sarah Eames, who’s a psychotherapist based in Dublin, Ireland. Her interview won’t come out until the end of May so I’m releasing a snippet from that episode to share her May challenge with you. You can join the challenge from her feed on Instagram, at speakeasyvirtualtherapy_.

All you have to do is message Sarah or Erica through Instagram or email Sarah from her website https://speakeasyvirtualtherapy.com. Then you will receive a packet from them worksheets to make a plan and to log your progress. At the end of each week, you will check in with them on your progress in meeting your goal.

 You can go reach out to Sarah on Instagram or through her website, speakeasyvirtualtherapy.com. Her email address is also on that page if you prefer email. I hope to see you in the May challenge.
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How to Use Soul Searching for Personal Transformation

Aruna Krishnan shares the five R’s of personal transformation and invites us to complete the first step today. She also reveals three ways that we can fight imposter syndrome, and questions that we can use to help us figure out our leadership capacity, recognizing that leadership doesn’t only happen when we’re in charge of a team, but it can happen in many different areas where we’re able to contribute towards making an impact.

Aruna is a management consultant, best selling author and podcast host. Her Busy Mind book series and podcast Lead That Thing cover leadership topics and competencies. Her company Optum LLC works with business owners to define business and product strategies that increase their revenues and growth. Learn more at https://www.optim-strategies.com/

Timeline of the Chat

02:25 – Aruna’s Busy Mind Series
05:10 – How to manage and train your mind
13:41 – The 4 Ps Framework for problem solving
17:32 – Writing to simplify processes and help others
21:21 – Leadership
23:19 – On self-acceptance and imposter syndrome
26:18 – Steps in Aruna’s self-acceptance journey
28:43 – Parenting the next generation
30:59 – Books and reading
32:40 – On failure and change
33:55 – Invitation/Challenge – The 5 R’s to Personal Transformation
36:42 – Fast Five

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How to Overcome Fear and Find Beauty in the Darkness

Michelle is a certified confidence coach who coaches people to confidently tell their stories, that get them seen, heard, hired, and change lives along the way. She’s the author of a memoir, Perfectly Normal: An Immigrant’s Story of Making it in America, an inspirational journey of overcoming adversity after an automobile accident that changed her life’s trajectory.

Michelle has such fantastic energy and her story is so inspiring. In this episode, she shares how she made a switch at some point in her mindset and the impact this had on her life. She took a series of brave actions that helped her discover how she could show up and choose the life that she wants.

Michelle shares suggestions on how we can make changes in our lives and the four elements necessary for success. Michelle shows us a route to developing self acceptance, and to dance with and befriend our fears.

This podcast interview was recorded on April 2, 2021.

Timeline of the Chat

03:32 – Becoming disabled at age 11
07:21 – Struggling with mental health 
10:53 – Changing mindset and travelling the Inca Trail
20:43 – Change your mindset to change your life
21:56 – How to trust your path and overcome fear
25:35 – Using the The Inner Critic Project to Manage Your Fears
29:16 – Defining acceptance
31:19 – Facing negative self talk – Judgment journal
34:18: Feng Shui and The Five Archetypes
36:30- Awareness as the first step to change
38:53 – The Four Elements to Live the Life that You Want
42:28 – Invitation/Challenge
43:48 – Perfectly Normal
44:23 – Fast Five

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How to Live a Romantic and Sensuous Life

In this episode, David Brower invites us to find ways to add more pleasure, more joy in our lives. He talks of the importance of experiencing and savoring the moments to feel alive.

David, an American by birth, has chosen the city of love and pleasure, Paris, has his home for the last 30 years. You can connect with David@davidbrower.com and you can also connect with him on his website, Facebook, Instagram, YouTube or Linkedin.

03:09 – On immigrating from the US to France
09:58 – Benefits of travelling
11:10 – Building a life in Paris
13:15 – Lesson learned from trying many different things in life
15:08 – Defining sensuality and romance
20:40 – Redefining romance and sensuality
25:11 – Finding joy and pleasure
30:53 – Rethinking good and bad
37:24 – Working with David
40:15 – Invitation – How to have more joy and love in your life
47:16 – Fast 5

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This podcast interview was recorded on April 1, 2021 but is no joke :D.

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Using Resistance and Resilience to Build Self Acceptance

The guest this episode is Dr. Seanna Leath. Dr. Leath and I have such a wide ranging conversation. We talk about black families, about mental health within the black community, about mothering and how Dr. Leath is currently thinking about that. A lot of her work is inspired by her own journey and because she’s done so much research, she has a lot of resources to share with us, of authors and papers that we can check to learn more about the topic.

The idea of the strong black woman is a common trope within black American culture, and so we spend some time looking at where that comes from and how it can be harmful to women and girls in the community.

Listen to this episode for some ideas of how you can investigate how you are feeling, what areas you are struggling with in terms of self acceptance and what practices and opportunities can you take in order for you to develop your own self acceptance?

Correction: Sebene Selassie’s Book is called You Belong not You Are Enough as I said in the interview.

This podcast interview was recorded on April 1, 2021.

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Using Video to Connect with Your Audience

When was the last time that you showed up on video? Are you comfortable with being on video or is it a medium that you tend to avoid? Why might all of us want to create a video? These are some of the questions that I explore with Rachel Tapscott in this episode.

Rachel helps business owners share their story through video. She began her career in media as original news camera operator, then moved into corporate video production, which led her to start her own video production company That Camera Girl. She noticed the same patterns and limiting beliefs present with dozens of different clients around the idea of putting themselves out on video, and she experienced the same fear and internal battle at the idea of appearing on video herself. Rachel’s purpose and the focus of her business has shifted from simply creating videos to helping people with their confidence on camera and their belief in themselves.

This podcast interview was recorded on March 28, 2021.

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How to Accept Your Body’s Imperfections

Have you ever found yourself hiding something about yourself? Perhaps you take photos showing only one side of your body, or you only share headshots to social media. If so, you will related to today’s guest and her invitation will help you accept and reveal yourself.

Beverley Mapagany currently works as an Account Payable Administrator but she strongly believe that she has come to this world to be a beacon of light to those who are struggling with accepting their bodies and who are not free because they are afraid they are not how the world tells them they should be. She has recently embarked on a journey of being a Body Image Activist.

We’ll continue exploring this topic over the next few weeks. Today, in addition to Beverly’s invitation to look in the mirror and speak to yourself with kindness, with love. I would also invite you to do some journaling, to do some reflecting, to do some thinking about what is the part of you that you’re hiding away, hiding away from yourself and hiding away from others. Reflect on this and as the weeks go on, I will be sharing some additional invitations, some additional challenges and resources with you so that you can make progress on this journey of self acceptance as well.

This podcast interview was recorded on March 18, 2021.

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Uplifting the Next Generation through Power to Girls

In this epsiode, I chat with Aisha Addo. Aisha Addo thrives on working to make the world a better place for women. Although she’s a graduate in Business Administration Accounting, her true passion and dedication lies in ensuring girls around the world are provided with the guidance and resources that help them identify their true purpose and calling to reach their full potential.

Aisha is working to help support girls to dream and develop in a supportive, uplifting community. Find out more about her work, sign up to mentor a girl, and share her work with people who can join the movement.

Find the episode at https://changesbigandsmall.com

This podcast interview was recorded on March 11, 2021.

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Working Together Across Timezones to Build a Clothing Brand

Sisters Chantalia and Haigann Fevrier-President started their own clothing brand during the pandemic. Chantalia is 17 and in high school in Canada; Haigann is in university in Italy. I’m in Prague, Czech Republic so this podcast episode is truly international.

Listen to find out what inspired the brand, Silence is Compliance, how they were able to get it started, what they learned along the journey and how you can start your own venture even if you’re still in high school! Silence is compliance recently released 5 new products, growing their brand.

I recorded this interview with Haigann and Chantalia as an Instagram Live on March 3, 2021. Since then, they have released 5 new products in their brand.

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How to Build Self Acceptance

To start off season 3, which focuses on self-acceptance, I interviewed Claudia Ira Gan last week. Claudia and I discussed how some people have a skewed sense of self-acceptance, thinking that self-acceptance means stagnation and staying the same. That is not what self acceptance is.

Self-acceptance means knowing your strengths, weaknesses, successes, failures, and seeing yourself as worthy of love, of dignity, despite your imperfections. It means accepting who you really are, not who you wish you should be or want to be. It has no judgement, only truth. This sets it apart from the related idea of self-esteem because self-esteem only focuses on the “esteemed” or the positive aspects of yourself. Self-acceptance looks at all of yourself and likes yourself regardless of the “flaws”, and it is essential before any transformation.

Listen to this episode to learn what is self acceptance and for some ideas of ways that you can increase your practice of self-acceptance.

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How to Find Belonging and Practice Self-Acceptance

Today, I’m speaking with Claudia Ira Gan. Claudia’s birthday is actually in two days so happy birthday, Claudia . Please send her birthday greetings on Instagram. You’ll find the link in the show notes at https://changesbigandsmall.com.

Listen to this episode to find out a perspective on self acceptance, why self acceptance is so important, and what steps you might be able to take to incorporate more of it into your life?

This podcast interview was recorded on Feb. 14, 2021.

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